THE IMPORTANCE OF WAITING FOR
AN ANGRY PERSON TO CALM DOWN
When your friend and acquaintances say deplorable things after getting angry (ghadab), you should not take what they say seriously, or entirely blame them for it. They are similar to a drunkard who remains unaware of what they are saying.
Instead, wait for them to cool down for remember, the devil has overtaken him and that his nature has concealed their intellect ('aql).
If you become angry with anyone over what they say, or talk back to him while he is angry, then you would be just like an intelligent person facing a foolish person- or like an awaken person blaming someone who is unconscious. You would be the liable sinner.
Look at him with mercy (rahma) and notice how destiny is manipulating him and how his nature is playing with him. Know that when he calms down, he will feel guilty for what happened and realize your virtue of patience (fadl al-sabr) with him.
So it is best to leave an angry person to do whatever (temporarily) comforts him.
This is what a son should do with his angry father, and a wife with her angry husband. She should let him say what he wants and not take it seriously because he will return feeling guilty (nādim) and apologetic.
Book: Captured Thoughts
By al-Hāfiz Abū'l-Faraj Ibn al-Jawzī
Translated and Published by
Dār as-Sunnah Publishers
P. 624, 625
[To read this text in Spanish Language click here].
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