The Wisdom of Marriage & The Fallacy of Dating : Dr. Muhammad Taqi-ud-Din Al-Hilali

 

The Wisdom of Marriage & The Fallacy 

of Dating : Dr. Muhammad 

Taqi-ud-Din Al-Hilali

Taken from his book ‘The rulings of al-Khula’ in Islaam’ pg. 36-38.

The great scholar and daa’ee, Dr. Muhammad Taqi-ud-Din Al-Hilali[1] said, “….And in the Sunan of Ibn Majah the prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) stated, “From the things that makes a man happy is a righteous wife whom whenever he looks at her she pleases him, whenever he commands her she obeys him, and whenever he is absent she is faithful with herself and his wealth.” Hadeeth hasan (hadeeth no. 1857).

So look – may Allaah have mercy on you – at this hadeeth which illustrates therein a very high wisdom from the lips of the one who has been given concise, eloquent speech that contains much profound meaning. For indeed herein he summed up the conditions for a happy martial life:

1. The first one is that the woman is attractive in the eyes of the husband

2. She willingly fulfills his requests and does what he wants; and this is the sign of true love

3. He trusts her and she trusts him. Hence if he is absent for a long or short period, he will be rest assured that she will safeguard her honor and integrity, and ensure that his wealth is not wasted

Without these conditions neither of the spouses can ever be happy. And the Europeans have claimed to have attained the pinnacle of marital bliss because they allow the fiancé to interact with his fiancée before the marriage in a manner that is very disturbing. It is quite possible for this relationship to continue like this for years whereby they are ‘still getting to know each other,’ to get to learn the other person’s behavioral traits and personality so that they can be more compatible with each other in order to make the relationship more lasting. They know however that this is a big farce. Because neither of the spouses trust the other – as far as being faithful to each other, or being honest with their money. Because the husband cannot tell his wife to do anything because obedience is not an obligation for them. Hence they are like two business or trade partners. And this illustrates the fallacy of the stipulation which is that they must ‘be in love’ first.

As for the argument that supports unrestricted interaction before the marriage contract, (this is also a fallacy) because they do not really get to know the true character of the other companion because each of them ‘puts on an act’ for the other, and feign signs of adulation for fear that the engagement will be called off. And almost none of them reveals his/her true character until they get married. And there are many incidents like this that proves this to be true. For indeed this happened in Germany in the city of Bonn wherein a man who was engaged to his fiancée for 20 years, and they lived together as a man would live with his wife. However when they married the marriage did not last but one year; all of it being disagreements, bickering, and argumentation, eventually ending in divorce.”

Taken from his book ‘The rulings of al-Khula’ in Islaam’ pg. 36-38.

Foot Notes:

[1] He is a descendant of the Prophet’s grandson Husain (radiallaahu anhu). He was born in Morocco in 1311 (1893) and he died 1408 (1997). He is well known for his translation of the meanings of the interpretation of the Noble Qur’an and Sahih Al-Bukhari.

Shaykh Hammaad al-Ansaaree said about him, “In reality I have met anyone who has more knowledge in so many various subjects other than Dr. al-Hilali. Forty five years have passed and I have never seen anyone like him. He was fluent in languages such as Hebrew, German, English, Spanish, in addition to being a scholar in Arabic. He is my shaykh for I benefit from him greatly. He was salafi in his aqeedah, and if you read his book about at-Tawheed you would know that no one knows at-Tawheed in the Qur’an like him.”

Taken from: https://abdurrahman.org/2014/02/01/wisdommarriagefallacydating/

Teaching in the Great Mosque of Mecca Is a Great Trial – Shaykh Taqi al-Din al-Hilali

Teaching in the Great Mosque

 of Mecca Is a Great Trial 

Shaykh Taqi al-Din al-Hilali

SOURCE: al-Hilālī, Muḥammad Taqī ad-Dīn : al-Daʿwa Ilá Allah fī Aqṭār Mukhtalifa, Qahira: Maktabat Dār al-Kitāb wa as-Sunnah P.307



Shaykh Muḥammad Taqī al-Dīn al-Ḥilālī:

Me and a friend of mine were transferred to teach in the Great Mosque of Mecca; and indeed teaching in the Great Mosque of Mecca is a great trial for the teacher. Often you would find a teacher – well known for knowledge and virtue – sitting and teaching in the Great Mosque of Mecca, yet his gatherings would barely exceed ten people. Then you would find another teacher, someone less than the latter with regards to fame and knowledge, yet you would see hundreds in attendance of his lesson listening. These affairs run in accordance to that which Allah ﷻ has ordained for everyone. Just like you find with shopkeepers; you find one shop frequented with many customers who generate sales whilst the shop next door – even though it stocks the exact same or even better goods  – remains inactive, no customers visit it.



I – and all praise is due to Allah ﷻ – was from the blessed ones. Hundreds would attend my lesson which took place in front of the Gate of Ibrāhīm. I do not know the cause for this except that I used to speak in a dialect that could be understood by all Arabs. As for the other teachers, their lack of attendees was due to them speaking in a local dialect [which could only be understood] by a specific people.



Taken from: http://dusunnah.com/article/teaching-in-the-great-mosque-of-mecca-is-a-great-trial-shaykh-taqi-al-din-al-hilali/

Before his time, Moroccans were upon the creed of the Salaf – Shaykh Taqi ad-Din al-Hilali

Before his time, Moroccans were

upon the creed of the Salaf

 Shaykh Taqi ad-Din al-Hilali

SOURCE: al-Hilālī, Muḥammad Taqī ad-Dīn : al-Daʿwa Ilá Allah fī Aqṭār Mukhtalifa, Qahira: Maktabat Dār al-Kitāb wa as-Sunnah P.96



Shaykh Muḥammad Taqī ad-Dīn al-Hilālī:


After I settled down in Tétouan (a city in northern Morocco), I established a monthly magazine titled The Arabic Tongue within it I published articles clarifying the falsehood of the Ashʿarī creed – a belief that the people of Morocco have religiously accepted since the time of Muḥammad ibn ʿAlī Tūrmart and the Almohad dynasty, and what we are witnessing today is the direct result of his propagation.


Before his time, Moroccans were upon the creed of the Salaf, so much so that when the book Iḥyā ʿUlūm ad-Dīn of Abū Ḥāmīd al-Ghazālī reached Morocco, the Moroccans gathered to burn it. Scholars from both – Andalusia and Morocco unanimously agreed in doing so due to what it contained of blameworthy speech. An example of such speech was; “There is no possibility of anything more perfect than what exist” meaning; it is impossible of Allah fashioning a more perfect world than the one that exists. al-Ghazālī says; “If there was possibility of such a thing, then that would be an oppression which negates justice.” – I have paraphrased his speech so that the ordinary reader may understand it – and so al-Ghazālī went from attributing oppression to Allah ﷻ to attributing inability to his power, and Allah ﷻ is far above that.


So the last Moroccan dynasty that was upon the methodology of the Salaf was the The Almoravid dynasty who were also known as the Mūlathamīn or the Lamtūnīn – an ascription to Lamtuna who was from a nomadic Berber tribe.



Source: http://dusunnah.com/article/before-his-time-moroccans-were-upon-the-creed-of-the-salaf-shaykh-taqi-ad-din-al-hilali/