Showing posts with label children. Show all posts
Showing posts with label children. Show all posts

Sunday, 23 September 2018

Small children playing in the Masajid




Shaikh al-Albani rahimahullah wrote:

“As for older children, then their influence [from the signs and environment of Islam] is clear and self-evident. However, if it is found among them one who is playing in the Masaajid and running, then it is upon the fathers and guardians to order them, discipline them, and nurture them. Or for the administer or custodian [of the masjid] to kick them out. This action was mentioned by Hafidh ibn Kathir: If Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) saw children playing in the masjid, he would hit them with his stick. He would look in the masjid after Isha and not leave anyone inside of it”.

Thamr al-Mustadaab pg. 762

وأما كبار الأطفال فتأثرهم بذلك واضح مسلم غير أنه إذا وجد فيهم من يلعب في المساجد ويركض فعلى آبائهم وأولياء أمرهم تأديبهم وتربيتهم أو على القيم والخادم أن يطردهم وعلى هذا عمل ما ذكره الحافظ ابن كثير :
( وقد كان عمر بن الخطاب رضي الله عنه إذا رأى صبيانا يلعبون في المسجد ضربهم بالمخففة - وهي الدرة - وكان يفتش المسجد بعد العشاء فلا يترك فيها أحدا )
المصدر :
762 نقلاً عن الثمر المستطاب في فقه السنة والكتاب





Monday, 23 July 2018

Some advice for the o­ne who is being tested by way of o­ne’s daughters

   بسم الله و الحمد لله ، والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله ، وعلى آله وصحبه ومن تولاه وبعد

Some advice for the o­ne who is being tested by way of o­ne’s daughters
Question: I request from his eminence to present some advice for the o­ne who is being tested by way of o­ne’s daughters and the benefit in raising them and in dealing with them in a good manner.

[Response: It is necessary that those who provide for their daughters that they be good to them and raise them while observing good manners. The Prophet, the peace & blessings of Allah be upon him, said:

{Whoever is tested with something due to o­ne’s daughters and remains good to them (during this trial) then he will have a cover that will protect him from the hellfire (on the Day of Judgment).}*
The Sunnah is to raise them while observing good manners, and to invite them to righteousness. As well as being gentle with them as there is glad tidings in being good to o­ne’s daughters or sisters. And they should invite them to Allah by finding them righteous husbands who will excel in protecting them and enjoin them to fulfill the commands of Allah.

ash-Shaykh ‘Abdul-‘Azeez bin Baaz (rahimahullah)
Arabic Source: http://www.ibnbaz.org.sa/mat/1649
Translated by: Aboo ‘Imraan al-Mekseekee-may Allah guide him

أرجو من فضيلتكم توجيه نصيحة لمن ابتلي بالبنات وفضل تربيتهن وحسن معاملتهن.

الواجب لمن رزق بالبنات أن يحسن إليهن ويحسن تربيتهن. وقد قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: ((من ابتلي بشيء من هذه البنات فأحسن إليهن كن له حجاباً من النار))[1].

والسنة أن يحسن تربيتهن ويدعو لهن بالصلاح. ويرفق بهن وله البشرى في إحسانه للبنات أو الأخوات. ويدعوا الله لهن بالأزواج الصالحين، الذين يحسنون رعايتهن ويأتمرون بأمر الله فيهن.

[1] رواه الترمذي في (كتاب البر والصلة) باب ما جاء في النفقة على البنات والأخوات، بلفظ: ((من ابتلي بشيء من البنات فصبر عليهن كن له حجابا من النار)) وقال: حديث حسن، ورواه ابن ماجه في (كتاب الأدب) باب بر الولد والإحسان إلى البنات، بلفظ: ((من كان له ثلاث بنات فصبر عليهن وأطعمهن وسقاهن وكساهن من جدته كن له حجابا من النار يوم القيامة)).

Tuesday, 13 February 2018

These people have not been blessed in their children!

These people have not been blessed in their children!

Imaam Ibn Uthaymeen رحمه الله


“Many people have children, however his/her children do not benefit him/her because of what is in them from disobedience & being undutiful (to the parents). These people have not been blessed in their children.

شرح دعاء قنوت الوتر ص.١١


Saturday, 23 July 2016

The Ruling of Combining the Walīmah for Marriage with the Walīmah of the Aqīqah

The Ruling of Combining the Walīmah for Marriage with the Walīmah of the Aqīqah*

Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Ibn Bāz

*Question:* Some of the people do the Walīmah for marriage along with the Walīmah for the Aqīqah. Is this action correct or should each be done separately?

*Answer:* There is no harm in that. If one combines the two Walīmahs then there is no harm. 

Translated by Raha Batts
Source: http://www.binbaz.org.sa/noor/2793

Sunday, 13 March 2016

Every Mother (Woman) Must Dedicate Herself

Every Mother (Woman) Must Dedicate Herself

“A woman, first and foremost, needs to be righteous herself, so that she can be a good example for her daughters…

A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future. In the earliest stages of their development, it is the mothers that human beings learn from. If she is a good mother, good in her manners and dealings and good in the way she brings up her children, then those children will take after her and contribute positively to the betterment of society.

Every mother, then, must dedicate herself to training her children, and if she cannot undertake their training on her own, then their father or another guardian – for example, a brother or uncle, if their father is dead – should help her to raise them.

A woman should not yield to difficult circumstances, feeling that she cannot change her situation or her family’s situation for the better.”

– Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen
[The Islaamic Awakening (p. 223 & 229)]

Wednesday, 7 October 2015

Establish a mahram relationship:breastfeeding and their rulings


Establish a mahram relationship:breastfeeding and their rulings

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen رحمه الله said: The words “and one who is not pregnant” mean: if a woman breastfeeds a child without having been pregnant. This happens a great deal: if a child cries, a woman comes along who has no milk and is not married, and she gives him her breast in order to quieten him, and the sucking stimulates milk production. If he breastfeeds five times or more, does he become a son to her? The author said no, because that came about without there having been a pregnancy. But this reason is not sufficient to prove his point. The correct view, which is held by the three imams, is that it does create the mahram relationship; if the child breastfeeds from a woman five times, then he becomes a son to her, whether she was a virgin or beyond the age of childbearing or had a husband. The evidence that it established the mahram relationship is based on the text and rational evidence. 

The textual evidence for that is the general meaning of the words of Allah (interpretation of the meaning): “Forbidden to you (for marriage) are: … your foster mother who gave you suck…” [an-Nisa’ 4:23]. And there is nothing in the Qur’aan or Sunnah to stipulate that the milk should be the result of pregnancy, so the general meaning of the text still stands. 

The rational evidence is that the wisdom behind the milk establishing the mahram relationship is the nourishment of the child thereby. If the child is nourished by it, then the reason for it creating the mahram relationship has been established. With regard to the verse (interpretation of the meaning) “The mothers shall give suck to their children…” [al-Baqarah 2:233], what it refers to what the mother should do of completing the term of breastfeeding. So the correct view is that a woman’s milk creates the mahram relationship whether it is the result of pregnancy or otherwise. So the milk of a virgin creates the mahram relationship, and the milk of an old woman who has no husband and is past the age of childbearing creates the mahram relationship.

From ash-Sharh al-Mumti‘ ‘ala Zaad al-Mustaqni‘, 13/440, 441

الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين – رحمه الله - : " قوله " وغَيْرُ حُبْلَى " يعني : لو أن امرأة أرضعت طفلاً بدون حمل ، وهذا يقع كثيراً فإن بعض الصبيان يبكي فتأتي امرأة ليس فيها لبن ولم تتزوج فتلقمه ثديها تريد أن تسكته ، ومع المص تدر عليه ، ويكون فيها لبن ، ويرضع خمس مرات أو أكثر ، فهل يكون ولداً لها ؟ يقول المؤلف : لا ؛ لأنه حصل من غير حمل ، وهذا التعليل لا يكفي في عدم إثبات هذا الحكم المهم ، والصواب الذي عليه الأئمة الثلاثة : أنه محرِّم ، وأن الطفل إذا شرب من امرأة خمس مرات فإنه يكون ولداً لها ، سواء كانت بكراً أم آيسة أم ذات زوج ، فهو محرِّم بالدليل والتعليل .
فالدليل : عموم قول الله تبارك وتعالى ( وَأُمَهَاتُكُمُ اللاَّتِي أَرْضَعْنَكُمْ ) وليس في الكتاب ولا في السنَّة اشتراط أن يكون اللبن ناتجاً عن حمل فتبقى النصوص على عمومها .

والتعليل : أن الحكمة من كون اللبن محرِّماً هو تغذي الطفل به ، فإذا تغذى به الطفل حصل المقصود ، أما الآية ( وَالْوَالِدَاتُ يُرْضِعْنَ أَوْلاَدَهُنَّ ) إنما سيقت لبيان ما يجب على الأم من إتمام الرضاعة ، فالصواب إذاً : أن لبن المرأة محرِّم سواء صار ناتجاً عن حمل أو عن غير حمل ، فلبن البكر محرم ، ولبن العجوز التي ليس لها زوج وأيست محرم " الشرح الممتع على زاد المستقنع " ( 13 / 440 ، 441 ) .

Wednesday, 29 July 2015

Be careful with his tarbiyyah


Be careful with his tarbiyyah


Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said in Tuhfat al-Mawdood (240):

One thing that the child desperately needs is for care to be taken with regard to his morals and attitude, for he will grow up with whatever the one who is raising him accustoms him to when he is small, and when he grows older it becomes difficult for him to change what he has got used to; these attitudes and characteristics that have become deeply ingrained in him, even if he tries to suppress them, they will always surface and expose him.

ابن القيّم رحمه الله في "تحفة المودود" (240) :

" ومما يحتاجُ إليهِ الطفلُ غايةَ الاحتياج الاعتناء بأمرِ خلْقهِ ، فإنهُ ينشأ على ما عوّدهُ المربي في صغره ، فيصعبُ عليه في كبرهِ تلافي ذلك ، وتصيرُ هذهِ الأخلاق صفاتٍ وهيئاتٍ راسخةً له ، فلو تحرّزَ منها غايةَ التحرزِ فضحته ولا بد يومًا ما "


Do not become lazy and inactive your children

Do not become lazy and inactive your children



Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said, discussing the parent’s responsibilities in raising the child in Tuhfat al-Mawdood (241):

He should avoid letting him became lazy and inactive, and should teach him the opposite. He should not let him rest for more than he needs to refresh his body and soul for more work, for laziness and inactivity bring bad consequences and will end in regret, but hard work brings good consequences, either in this world or in the Hereafter or in both.


 ابن القيم في معرض الحديث عما يجب على الولي من التربية في "تحفة المودود" (241) :

" ويُجنبهُ الكسلَ والبطالةَ والدعةَ والراحةَ ، بلْ يأْخذهُ بأضدادها ، ولا يُريحهُ إلا بما يجمُ نفسَهُ وبدنه للشغلِ ، فإنّ الكسلَ والبطالةَ عواقبُ سوءٍ ، ومغبةُ ندمٍ ، وللجدّ والتعبِ عواقبُ حميدةٌ ، إمّا في الدنيا ، وإما في العُقبى ، وإمّا فيهما "

Wednesday, 15 July 2015

Sister wants to attend Taraweeh with her children


Sister wants to attend Taraweeh with her children


Question: My wife wants to pray Taraweeh at the masjid, but our children disturb the people praying. Can I forbid her from attending the masjid, so that she stays at home, take care of the children and establishes the night prayer within the house?

Shaykh Abdullah al-Bukharee  حفظه الله:

-The Prophet said that the best prayer for the women is in her home.

-It’s permissible (mubaah) for her to attend the masjid, but not Sunnah; rather the Sunnah for her is to pray in her home.

-Regarding the children who disturb the worshippers at the masjid, this makes it even more that she shouldn´t attend the masjid.

-The people who pray at the masjid have a right upon you, their right is that you do not disturb them from their ibaadah. By bringing these children you will be disturbing the worshippers and therefore not fulfilling their right upon you.

-This is also the reason why the Prophet forbade from the beautifying the masjid, in order that the people would not be distracted and lose their khusoo’.


-Therefore you are allowed to forbid her from attending, however do so with rifq(gentleness), explain to her the reasoning behind it, and she will be rewarded for praying the night prayer at home, in sha Allah.

Saturday, 4 April 2015

THE RULING ON GOING TO AMUSEMENT PARKS




Shaykh ibn al-Uthaymeen رحمه الله

Question: Oh Owner of Virtue, many Parents go with their children to what is called Children’s amusement parks. In it are oppositions to the Shariah, such as some women displaying their bodies. The children are severely eager to go to these amusement parks. So what is the legislated ruling on going there?

Answer: “These amusement parks, as our questioner mentioned, have in them evils. So if a place has evils, then if a person is able to remove these evils it is obligatory upon him to attend to remove them. As for if he is unable, then it is haram upon him to attend. So now we say: take your children to the open land and that will suffice. As for taking them to the amusement park in which there is free-mixing and in it are foolish people who flirt with women. In it are [women wearing] clothing which are not permissible for women to wear. So it is not permissible for a him to go there, unless he is able to remove the evil”.


حكم الذهاب إلى الملاهي


. السؤال
يا صاحب الفضيلة! يكثر ذهاب أولياء الأمور بأطفالهم إلى ما يسمى بملاهي الأطفال، وفيه من المخالفات الشرعية من تبرج بعض النساء، والأطفال فيهم حرص شديد على الذهاب إلى هذه الملاهي، فما الحكم الشرعي في الذهاب إلى هناك؟

الجواب
هذه الملاهي -كما ذكر أخونا السائل- فيها منكرات، وإذا كان المكان فيه منكرات فإن استطاع الإنسان أن يزيل هذه المنكرات وجب عليه الحضور لإزالتها، وإذا لم يستطع حرم عليه الحضور، وحينئذٍ نقول: اخرج بأولادك إلى البر وكفى، وأما أن يؤتى بهم إلى هذه الملاهي وفيها الاختلاط، وفيها السفهاء الذين يغازلون النساء، وفيها الثياب التي لا يحل للمرأة لبسها؛ فإنه لا يحل أن يأتي إليها إلا إذا كان قادراً على إزالة المنكر..




Shaikh Salih al-Fawzan حفظه الله said:

واحذر أيها الأب الغيور من الذهاب بأسرتك إلى الملاهي المختلطة، والشواطئ والمنتزهات التي تظهر فيها المنكرات

“Beware, Oh jealous father, from going with your family to free-mixing amusement parks and recreational beaches which have evils apparent in them… “.


Saturday, 28 February 2015

How does a Father Teach his Children Tawheed? – Shaykh Muhammad bin Salih al-Uthaymeen



How does a Father Teach his Children Tawheed? 

– Shaykh Muhammad bin Salih al-Uthaymeen-


كيف يعلم الأب أبناءه التوحيد؟
Translated By Abbas Abu Yahya
Shaykh Allama Muhammad bin Salih al-Uthaymeen -Rahimullaah- was asked:
How does a father teach his children Tawheed?
 He answered:
 ● ‘He teaches them Tawheed just like he teaches them other matters of the Deen. From the best of what is in this subject is the book ‘The Three Principles’ by Shaykh-ul-Islaam Muhammad bin AbdulWahab. If he makes them memorise it by heart and explains to them its meanings appropriately to their understanding and their intellects.
Then there comes a lot of goodness from this. This is because this book is built upon questions and answers, and clear easy expressions, which have no complexity.
Then the father shows them the Ayaat of Allaah (His signs) so that he can practically implement what is mentioned in this small book.
For example,  the sun, the father asks, who created it? Likewise the moon,  the stars,  the night and day, you say to them:
‘The sun, who created it? Allaah.
The moon?   Allaah,  the night?  Allaah, the day?  Allaah.  Allaah -Azza wa Jal- created all of these. This is so that one can water the tree of the Fitrah (the natural disposition) because the human himself has been created with his natural disposition upon Tawheed of Allaah -Azza wa Jal.
 Like the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:
(كل مولود يولد على الفطرة ، فأبواه يهودانه أوينصرانه أو يمجسانه)
‘Every newborn is born upon the Fitrah (natural disposition), so it is his parents who either make him into a Jew or into a Christian or into a Majoos (fire worshipper).’
● Also he teaches them Wudu, how to make Wudu by demonstration and saying: This is how one does Wudu, and he performs the Wudu in front of him.
● Likewise the Salah (prayer), along with taking aid with Allaah Ta’ala, and asking Allaah -Azza wa Jal- for guidance for them. Also, that one keeps away from any statement which opposes good behaviour or every prohibited action, so he should not get them used to lying,  cheating and treachery,  nor lowly manners.
Even if the father was trialed by prohibited actions, like if he was trialed by smoking,  he should not smoke in front of them because they will get used to it and it will become easy upon them to do it as well.
 One should know that every man of a household is responsible for the people of the house, due to the saying of Allah Tabaraka wa Ta’ala:
(يَا أَيُّهَاالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَاراً)
《 O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell)》[Tahreem: 6]
Our protecting them from the fire cannot be except if we get them used to righteous actions and to leave off bad actions. The Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- affirmed that in his saying:
(الرجل راع في أهله ومسؤول عن رعيته)
‘A man is a shepherd for his family and he is responsible for his flock.’
A father should know that their being righteous is beneficial to him in this world and the hereafter Indeed from the closest of people to their fathers and mothers are the righteous children, male and female.
(وإذا مات الإنسان انقطع عمله إلا من ثلاث: صدقة جارية، أو علم ينتفع به،أو ولد صالح يدعو له )
‘When a person dies his actions cease except for three: continuous charity,  or knowledge people benefit from,  or a righteous child who supplicates for him.’
We ask Allah Ta’ala to aid all of us upon carrying out the trust and responsibility.’
[Silsilah Noor ala Darb. Tape: 350 side A]

Saturday, 6 September 2014

The ruling on watching the “magic of illusion”


The ruling on watching the “magic of illusion”

Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan حفظه الله was asked: 

Question: What is the ruling on watching the “magic of illusion”, whether that is in real life or on television? 

He replied: It is not permissible to watch magic, whether it is real or is just illusions. It is not permissible because it is falsehood, and it is not permissible to witness or watch falsehood, because by watching it one has approved of it, unless he is watching it in order to denounce it and strive to put an end to it. In that case there is nothing wrong with it. But if he watches it and says nothing, or he tells others about it, this is haraam because it is idle entertainment. 


سئل الشيخ صالح الفوزان – حفظه الله

ما حكم مشاهدة " السحر التمثيلي " سواء كان على الطبيعة أو على التلفاز ؟ .

فأجاب : " لا يجوز مشاهدة السحر سواء كان حقيقيّاً أو تمثيليّاً تخييليّاً ، لا يجوز ؛ لأنه باطل ، ولا يجوز للإنسان مشاهدة الباطل ؛ لأنه إذا شاهده : فقد أقره ، إلا إذا كان يشاهده من أجل القيام بإنكاره والعمل على إزالته : فلا بأس بذلك ، أما أن 
يشاهده ساكتاً ومتكلما بذلك : هذا حرام ، لأنه لهو بالباطل " انتهى . نقلا عن موقع الشيخ حفظه الله على هذا الرابط :


Tuesday, 1 July 2014

Your children are a trust

Your children are a trust
 
 
Al-Allaamah Abdullaah Bin Muhammad Bin Humayd رحمه الله
 
"Your children are a trust and when you neglect them, then indeed you have betrayed them. It is obligatory upon every one of us to fear Allah with regards to the (affair) of his children and those under his care."
 

Source: Al-Fataawaa Wad-Duroos Fil Masjid Al-Haraam: by Al-Allaamah Abdullaah Bin Muhammad Bin Humayd رحمه الله . Pages: 938-944

Wednesday, 14 May 2014

Choosing a school and friends for your child

Choosing a school and friends for your child
 
My country
 
From an upcoming Al-Ibaanah publication: "Raising Children in Light of the Qur'an and Sunnah" by 'Abdus-Salaam As-Sulaymaan. The book was introduced and commended by Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan.]
 
5. Choosing a School:
 
The father should strive to carefully choose a good school for his child, thus selecting the one that is of the finest quality and not necessarily the one that is closest to him. He should also ask those involved in the field of teaching and educating, who are sincere and honest, as to which of the schools is the best.
 
School has a deep impact on a student since it is there that he spends a quarter of his day – which is in fact the best time of the day. In the school he learns and is educated, and that is the place where he finds friends and companions.
 
So based on this, the father must keep a close connection with the school by going to visit it, staying in contact with it by phone and asking about the state of his son or daughter. He should be concerned with asking about his child’s character, behavior and friends before asking about his grades.
 
He should also follow up on his child’s educational development and studies, and check his notes and homework and be aware of the remarks the teacher makes to his child’s work so that he may correct it.
 
So your concern with your child’s studies and your solid relationship with his school, his teachers, his schoolwork, and his levels of education is a good that will assist in his well-being and learning, by the will of Allah.
 
6. Choosing a Friend:
 
From the things in which there is no doubt is that a friend has a profound effect on an individual – whether positive or negative. Sufficient to clarify this point is the statement of the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) when he said: “The example of the righteous companion and the evil companion is like that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith.” [Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
 
The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) also said: “A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let each of you look into whom he takes as a close friend.” [Reported by Abu Dawood]
 
Therefore, O father, it is incumbent upon you to look for a good friend and a sincere companion for your child before he chooses one on his own, for he may choose the wrong ones and then grow attached to them, after which it will be hard for you to separate them.
 
There are many accounts, too numerous to be recorded, in which children were raised in good environments and in conservative households but ended up mixing with bad companions on the pretext that they were going on a trip or an outing with them or using the excuse that they wanted to play with them or have fun with them or study with them. And the end result of this was that they had a negative effect on them.
 
In these days it is extremely difficult for a father to raise his child in exclusion of friends. Trials and temptations constantly surround the youth from all directions.
 
Bad friends can either be people who are engulfed in their desires or in misconceptions. If they are those who are given into whims and desires, they will lead your child towards mischief and a digression from good character. As for those who follow misconceptions, they will lead your child towards innovations and opposing the guidance of the pious predecessors (Salaf as-Saalih). Perhaps he may even fall into the acts of declaring Muslims disbelievers and innovators. This particularly applies to the members of those methodologies that are foreign to this country (i.e. Saudi Arabia), as has occurred to some of our youth, may Allah guide them and return them back to the truth.
 
In conclusion, I ask Allah to rectify for all of us our intentions and offspring, and that He forgive our parents, granting them the best of rewards on our behalf. I ask Allah to assist us in being dutiful to them during their lives as well as after their deaths.
 
I also ask Allah to aid us in raising our children upon the Qur’an and the Sunnah and to make them righteous offspring and an enjoyment to our eyes in this life by, through their uprightness, and after death, through their righteous deeds.
 
May the peace and praises of Allah be upon our prophet Muhammad.
 
Published on: February 27, 2007
 
Author: ‘Abdus-Salaam bin ‘Abdillaah As-Sulaymaan

Source: Tarbiyat-ul-Awlaad fee Daw’-il-Kitaabi was-Sunnah (pg. 65-68)

Tuesday, 13 May 2014

Hajj of a minor

Hajj of a minor

The most Holiest of place for Muslims. The kaaba..
 
Question: If I want to take my son, who has not yet reached adolescence, with me to Hajj, should I dress him in ihraam clothes and do all the rituals on his behalf, such as doing tawaaf on his behalf, etc., or should I dress him in regular clothes and not do anything on his behalf since he is little and does not have to do Hajj?
 
Answer: If a child has reached the age of discernment but has not yet reached adolescence and his father or guardian wants to take him for Hajj, he should tell him to put on ihraam garments and the child should do all the rituals of Hajj for himself, starting with entering ihraam from the meeqaat, until the end of the actions of Hajj, and his father or guardian should stone the Jamaraat on his behalf if he cannot do that himself. He should tell him to avoid the things that are forbidden whilst in ihraam. But if the child is below the age of discernment, then his father or guardian should make the intention of entering ihraam for Hajj or ‘Umrah on his behalf, and do Tawaaf and Sa’ee with him, and take him with him for all the other rituals, and stone the Jamaraat on his behalf.
 
And Allaah is the Source of strength. May Allaah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad.
 
Al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah li’l-Buhooth al-‘Ilmiyyah wa’l-Iftaa’ – Fataawa al-Lajnah, 11/22.
 
حج الصغير
 
إذا أردت أن يحج معي ابني الذي لم يبلغ الحلم، هل ألبسه ملابس الإحرام وأقوم نيابة عنه بجميع المناسك كأن أطوف عنه..إلخ، أم ألبسه ملابسه العادية ولا أقوم عنه بشيء طالما أنه صغير ولا حج عليه ؟.
 
 الصبي المميز الذي لم يبلغ الحلم إذا أراد وليه أن يحج به فإنه يأمره بأن يلبس ملابس الإحرام، ويفعل (الصبي ) بنفسه جميع مناسك الحج ابتداءً من الإحرام من الميقات إلى آخر أعمال الحج، ويرمي عنه ( وليه ) إن لم يستطع الرمي بنفسه، ويأمره بأن يجتنب المحظورات في الإحرام ، وإذا لم يكن مميزاً فإنه ( أي وليه ) ينوي عنه الإحرام بعمرة أو حج ، ويطوف ويسعى به ويُحضره معه في بقية المناسك ويرمي عنه.
 
 وبالله التوفيق وصلى الله على نبينا محمد وآله وصحبه وسلم .
 

 اللجنة الدائمة للبحوث العلمية والإفتاء (فتاوى اللجنة 11/22).

Monday, 21 April 2014

What is the age at which a woman should observe hijab from a boy – is it when he reaches the age of discernment or when he reaches the age of puberty?.

 
What is the age at which a woman should observe hijab from a boy – is it when he reaches the age of discernment or when he reaches the age of puberty?.
 
😴❤️
 
Allaah تعالى  says in the passage where He speaks of those to whom it is permissible to show one’s adornments (interpretation of the meaning):
 
“…or small children who have no sense of feminine sex”
[al-Noor 24:31]
 
If a child shows some awareness of a woman’s ‘awrah and starts to look at her and talk to her a great deal, then it is not permissible for a woman to uncover in front of him.
 
This varies from one boy to another in terms of natural disposition and in terms of the company that he keeps. A boy may have a greater interest in women if he sits with people who talk about them a great deal, and if it were not for that he would not be particularly interested in them. 
 
What matters is that Allah تعالى  has set the guidelines for this matter when He said (interpretation of the meaning):
 
“…or small children who have no sense of feminine sex”
[al-Noor 24:31]
 
i.e., these are among the ones in front of whom it is permissible for a woman to show her adornments, if they have no interest in women.
 
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen رحمه الله
Majmoo’at As’ilah tahumm al-Usrah al-Muslimah, p. 148
 
ما هو سن الطفل الذي تحتجب منه المرأة هل هو التمييز أم البلوغ ؟.
 
" يقول الله تعالى في سياق من يباح إبداء الزينة لهم : ( أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ ) النور/31 ، والطفل إذا ظهر على عورة المرأة وصار ينظر إليها ويتحدث إليها كثيراً ، فإنه لا يجوز للمرأة أن تكشف أمامه .
 
وهذا يختلف باختلاف الصبيان من حيث الغريزة وباختلاف الصبيان من حيث المجالسة ، لأن الصبي ربما يكون له شأن في النساء إذا كان يجلس إلى أناس يتحدثون بهن كثيراً ، ولولا هذا لكان غافلاً لا يهتم بالنساء .
 
المهم أن الله حدد هذا الأمر بقوله : ( أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ ) النور/31 ، يعني أن هذا مما يحل للمرأة أن تبدي زينتها له إذا كان لا يظهر على العورة ولا يهتم بأمر النساء " انتهى
 

فضيلة الشيخ ابن عثيمين رحمه الله ، " مجموعة أسئلة تهم الأسرة المسلمة ص 148


Monday, 7 April 2014

REGARDING CAESAREANS

 

REGARDING CAESAREANS


 
SHAYKH IBN ‘UTHAYMEEN RAHIMAHULLAAH
 
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
 
I would like to take this opportunity to point out a phenomenon that has been mentioned to us, which is that many obstetricians, male and female, in the hospitals are too keen for birth to take place by surgical means, which is known as a Caesarean. I am afraid that this may be a plot against the Muslims, because the more births take place in this manner, the more the skin of the abdomen is weakened and pregnancy becomes more dangerous for the woman, and she becomes unable to get pregnant. Some of the people who work in private hospitals have told me that many women come to the hospitals and their specialists tell them that there is no alternative to a caesarean, then they go to this private hospital and give birth naturally. He mentioned that there were about eighty such cases in one month. This means that the issue is serious, and attention must be drawn to it. It should be noted that in this case some pain and exhaustion is inevitable.
“His mother bears him with hardship. And she brings him forth with hardship”
[al-Ahqaaf 46:15]
 
It is not something to be done as soon as the woman feels a contraction, so that she may avoid pain. Natural childbirth is better than a caesarean. End quote.
 
(SOURCE: Liqaa’aat al-Baab il-Maftoohah 2/question no. 42).
 
The Shaykh (may Allaah have mercy on him) was also asked:
 
Allaah says in Soorat ‘Abasa (interpretation of the meaning):
 
“Then He makes the Path easy for him”
[‘Abasa 80:20]
 
So Allaah guarantees to make it easy for this newborn. Many men and women have noticed that there is haste in performing caesarean sections. Is this a sign of weak trust in Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted?
 
He replied:
 
I think that this method which people use nowadays when the woman feels the contractions and goes to the hospital, and they do a caesarean section for her, I think that this is inspired by the shaytaan, and that the harm caused is far greater than any benefits, because a woman is bound to feel pain when in labour, but this pain has a number of benefits:
 
1 – It is an expiation for sin
2 – It raises her in status if she is patient and seeks reward.
3 – The woman understands the extent of the pain suffered by other mothers.
4 – She will appreciate the extent of the blessing of good health that Allaah bestows on her.
5 – It will increase her love towards her child, because the more difficult it is to attain something, the dearer it becomes.
6 – If the child is born by via the usual, well-known route, this is better for him and the woman.
7 – Damage may be expected from this surgery, because this operation weakens the wall of the uterus etc, which may tear. And it may be successful or unsuccessful.
8 – The woman who gets used to having caesareans is unlikely to give birth in the natural manner, because that is not possible, and there is the risk that the site of the surgery may rupture.
9 – Having surgery results in having fewer children, because if the abdomen is cut three times in different places, it becomes weak and future pregnancy becomes dangerous.
10 – This is a kind of luxury, and luxury is a thing that leads to doom, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Verily, before that, they indulged in luxury…”
[al-Waaqi’ah 56:45]
 
Women should be patient and seek reward, and should continue to give birth in the natural way, because that is better for them in this world and in the Hereafter. Men should also pay attention to this issue, for we do not know, perhaps our enemies are the ones who have made these operations easy for us so that we will lose these benefits and be subject to these losses.
 
Question: What is meant by luxury?
 
Answer: Luxury includes avoiding the natural pain of childbirth. This is a kind of luxury. If luxury does not help one to obey Allaah, then it is either blameworthy or at the very least permissible.
 
(SOURCE: Liqaa’aat al-Baab il-Maftooh 86/question no. 17).
 
الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين رحمه الله :

"وبهذه المناسبة أود أن أشير إلى ظاهرة ذُكِرت لنا ، وهي : أن كثيراً من المولِّدين أو المولِّدات في المستشفيات يحرصون على أن تكون الولادة بطريقةِ عملية ، وهي ما تسمى بالقيصرية ، وأخشى أن يكون هذا كيداً للمسلمين ؛ لأنه كلما كثرت الولادات على هذا الحال : ضَعُفَ جِلْدُ البطن وصار الحمل خطراً على المرأة ، وصارت لا تتحمل ، وقد حدَّثني بعض أهلِ المستشفيات الخاصة بأن كثيراً من النساء عُرِضْن على مستشفيات فقرر مسئولوها أنه لا بد من قيصرية ، فجاءت إلى هذا المستشفى الخاص فوُلِّدت ولادة طبيعية ، وذَكَرَ أكثرَ من ثمانين حالة من هذه الحالات في نحو شهر ، وهذا يعني أن المسألة خطيرة ، ويجب التنبُّه لها، وأن يُعْلَم أن الوضع لا بد فيه من ألم ، ولا بد فيه من تعب (حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ كُرْهاً وَوَضَعَتْهُ كُرْهاً) الأحقاف/15 ، وليس لمجرد أن تحس المرأة بالطَّلْق تذهب وتُنْزِل الولد حتى لا تحس به ، فالولادة الطبيعية خير من القيصرية " انتهى بتصرف .
" لقاءات الباب المفتوح " ( 2 / السؤال 42 ) .

وسئل الشيخ – رحمه الله - :

فضيلة الشيخ ! يقول الله سبحانه وتعالى في سورة عبس : ( ثُمَّ السَّبِيلَ يَسَّرَهُ ) عبس/20 ، فالله سبحانه وتعالى تكفل بتيسير هذا المولود ، ويلاحظ كثيرٌ من الناس من الرجال والنساء الاستعجال للقيام بعملية ما تسمى بالقيصرية ، فهل هذا من ضعف التوكل على الله سبحانه وتعالى ؟ .
فأجاب :

أرى - بارك الله فيك - أن هذه الطريقة التي يستعملها الناس الآن عندما تحس المرأة بالطلْق تذهب إلى المستشفى ، ويصنع لها عملية قيصرية : أرى أن هذا من وحي الشيطان ، وأن ضرر هذا أكثر بكثير من نفعه ؛ لأن المرأة لابد أن تجد ألماً عند الطلق ، لكن ألمها هذا تستفيد منه فوائد :
الفائدة الأولى : أنه تكفير للسيئات .
الثاني : أنه رفعة للدرجات إذا صبرت واحتسبت .
والثالث : أن تعرف المرأة قدْر الأم التي أصابها مثلما أصاب هذه المرأة .
والرابع : أن تعرف قدر نعمة الله تعالى عليها بالعافية .
والخامس : أن يزيد حنانها على ابنها ؛ لأنه كلما كان تحصيل الشيء بمشقة كانت النفس عليه أشفق ، وإليه أحن .
والسادس : أن الابن أو أن هذا الحمل يخرج من مخارجه المعروفة المألوفة ، وفي هذا خير له وللمرأة .
والسابع : أنها تتوقع بذلك ضرر العملية ؛ لأن العملية تضعف غشاء الرحم وغير ذلك ، وربما يحصل له تمزق ، وقد تنجح ، وقد لا تنجح .
والثامن : أن التي تعتاد القيصرية لا تكاد تعود إلى الوضع الطبيعي ؛ لأنه لا يمكنها ، وخطر عليها أن تتشقق محل العمليات .
والتاسع : أن في إجراء العمليات تقليلاً للنسل ، وإذا شق البطن ثلاث مرات من مواضع مختلفة وهَنَ وضعف وصار الحمل في المستقبل خطيراً .
والعاشر : أن هذه طريقة من طرق الترف ، والترف سبب للهلاك ، كما قال الله تعالى في أصحاب الشمال : ( إِنَّهُمْ كَانُوا قَبْلَ ذَلِكَ مُتْرَفِينَ ) الواقعة/45 ، فالواجب على المرأة أن تصبر وتحتسب ، وأن تبقى تتولد ولادة طبيعية ؛ فإن ذلك خير لها في الحال ، وفي المآل ، وعلى الرجال أيضاً هم بأنفسهم أن ينتبهوا لهذا الأمر، وما يدرينا فلعل أعداءنا هم الذين سهلوا علينا هذه العمليات من أجل أن تفوتنا هذه المصالح ونقع في هذه الخسائر .

السائل : ما مفهوم الترف ؟ .

الشيخ : الترف : أن فيه اجتناب ألم المخاض الطبيعي ، وهذا نوع من الترف ، والترف إذا لم يكن معيناً على طاعة الله : فهو إما مذموم ، أو على الأقل مباح .


" لقاءات الباب المفتوح " ( 86 / السؤال 17 ) .

Sunday, 9 March 2014

Meat of Aqeeqah...raw or cooked?

Meat of Aqeeqah...raw or cooked?
 
Ibn Qudaamah said:
 
The way it is to be eaten (by the owner), given as gifts and given in charity is the same, i.e., the way in which the ‘aqeeqah is to be (shared out) is the same as the way in which the udhiyah is (shared out). This is the view of al-Shaafa'i.
 
Ibn Seereen said:
 
Do whatever you want with the meat. Ibn Jurayj said: It should be cooked in salt and water, and given to neighbours and friends, but nothing of it should be given in charity. Ahmad was asked about this, and he quoted the view of Ibn Seereen, which indicates that this was also his view. He was asked whether one could eat it, and he said, I did not say that he should eat all of it and not give any of it in charity.
 
The more correct view is to liken it by analogy (qiyaas) to udhiyah because it is a sacrifice which is prescribed in sharee’ah, but it is not obligatory, so it is like udhiyah, and because it is like it in terms of the attributes, age, value and conditions [of the animal] , so it is like it in terms of the manner in which it is disposed of.
 
(al-Mughni, 9/366) 
 
قال ابن قدامة :
وسبيلها في الأكل والهدية والصدقة سبيلها ـ يعني سبيل العقيقة كسبيل الأضحية .. وبهذا قال الشافعي .
وقال ابن سيرين : اصنع بلحمها كيف شئت ، وقال ابن جريج : تطبخ بماء وملح وتهدى الجيران والصديق ولا يتصّدق منها بشيء ، وسئل أحمد عنها فحكى قول ابن سيرين ، وهذا يدل على أنه ذهب إليه ، وسئل هل يأكلها قال : لم أقل يأكلها كلها ولا يتصدق منها بشيء .
والأشبه قياسها على الأضحية لأنها نسيكة مشروعة غير واجبة فأشبهت الأضحية ولأنها أشبهتها في صفاتها وسنها وقدرها وشروطها فأشبهتها في مصرفها .. . " المغني " ( 9 / 366 ) .
 
 
It is mustahabb to cook all of the ‘aqeeqah, even the share that is to be given in charity, because it was narrated that some of the Salaf, such as Jaabir (may Allaah be pleased with him), regarded that as mustahabb. ‘Ataa’ ibn Abi Rabaah used to say concerning the ‘aqeeqah: “It should be cut into pieces, cooked with water and salt, and given as gifts to one's neighbours.” (Narrated by al-Bayhaqi in al-Sunan, no. 19827).
 

 يستحب طبخ العقيقة كلها ، حتى ما يُتَصَدَّقُ به منها . لما روي عن بعض السلف استحباب ذلك ، مثل جابر بن عبد الله رضي الله عنه ، وكان عطاء بن أبي رباح يقول في العقيقة : " يقطع آرابا آرابا ، و يطبخ بماء وملح ، و يهدى في الجيران ". رواه البيهقي في السنن برقم 19827 

Monday, 24 February 2014

And if they desire children in Jannah!…

And if they desire children in Jannah!…

 
Upon the authority of Abu Sa’eed Al Khudri (Radhiyallaahu ‘Anhu) who said that the Messenger of Allah – (sallallaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) said: “If the believer desires a child in Jannah, then pregnancy, child birth and the child coming of age occurs in an hour (or in a short period) and the child is just as they desire!
 

[Source: Collected by Ahmad 11079 and Tirmidhi (2563) and declared ‘Saheeh’ By Shaykh Albaani in ‘Saheeh Sunanit Tirmidhi’ 2077]

Thursday, 6 February 2014

Learn Islamic Knowledge in Bilad al-Kaafir



Learn Islamic Knowledge in Bilad al-Kaafir

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Shaykh al-Fawzaan حفظه الله تعالى:

"And it is not permissible to take islamic knowledge from the disbelievers. The Muslims were not destroyed except by allowing their children to study Islam from the orientalist; those who caused them to doubt their religion and aqeedah. This is not permissible."