ADVICE TO OLDER SISTERS WHO HAVE PASSED THE AGE OF MARRIAGE

ADVICE TO OLDER SISTERS WHO HAVE PASSED THE AGE OF MARRIAGE

 

 

Question 189: I would like your advice concerning a matter that affects me and my fellow sisters. This matter is that it has been written [by Allah] for us that we should live without a husband. We have passed through the age of marriage and we are getting close to menopause. This is the case even though , and all praises are due to Allah and Allah is witness to what I state, we are women of character and we have all earned college degrees. However, this is what is destined for us and all praises are due to Allah. It is simply financial reasons that have kept people from proposing to us. The customs surrounding a marriage, especially in our land, are built upon cooperation between the spouses concerning what will take place in the future. I ask for your advice for me and my sisters.

 

Response: The advice that I direct to such women who have delayed marriage is what was suggested in the question itself: they should turn to Allah with supplications and submission so that Allah may grant them one whose religion and character is pleasing to them. If a person sincerely and resolutely turns to Allah, seeking His help, following the manners of supplications and being free of anything that prevents supplications from being answered, then Allah has said,

 

“And when My servants ask you [Muhammad] concerning me, then (answer them), I am indeed near (to them by My knowledge). I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me”

 

(al- Baqara 186)

 

Another verse states,

 

“And your Lord said, ‘Invoke Me, I will respond to your (invocation)”

 

(Ghafir 60)

 

Allah has stated that the response to the invocation comes after the person responds to Allah and believes in Him. I do not see anything stronger than turning to Allah, supplicating to Him humbling oneself to Him and waiting for the solution. It has been confirmed that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said,

 

“Know that victory comes with patience, relief with distress and ease with hardship.”

 

[Recorded by Ahmad and others. Al-Albaani رحمه الله  has graded it saheeh. Al-Albaani, Saheeh al-Jami, vol. 2, p. 1151.]

 

I ask Allah for these women and others like them that Allah makes their affairs easy and grants them pious husbands who marry them for betterment in their religion and worldly lives. Ameen

 

And Allah knows best.

 

[By: Shaykh Uthaymeen رحمه الله  - Taken from: Fatwas Regarding Women]