HUSBANDS: BEAUTIFY
YOURSELVES FOR YOUR WIVES AND HELP IN THE HOME
Allah says:
“And
the women have the same rights as those that are over them from what is
reasonable.”
[Sooratul-Baqarah 2:
228]
Al-Haafidh Ibn Katheer in
his explanation of this verse said:
“It means that
they have rights over the men similar to the rights that the men have over
them. So
giving each other their mutual rights is obligatory from what is
reasonable…
Wakee’ said on the
authority Basheer ibn Sulaymaan, on the authority of ‘Ikramah, on the authority
of Ibn ‘Abbaas who said:
“Verily
I love to beautify myself for my wife just as I love my wife to beautify
themselves for me because Allah says:
“And
the women have the same rights as those that are over them from what is
reasonable.”
[Sooratul-Baqarah 2:
228]
If a man beautifies himself, it helps the
woman in lowering her gaze and it helps to bring the hearts close
together.
Some men go to their wives and they are
unkempt, dirty, and foul smelling. He bathes and perfumes himself to go out with
his friends, but when he returns he is as I mentioned earlier which causes
dislike in the heart and disgust in the soul.
Just
as you ask your wife, when she is in front of you, to be beautiful looking and
pleasant smelling, she also asks this of you. She has feelings just as you do,
and she has senses just as you do. Men, fear Allah in yourselves and in
your women.”
Helping her with
housework
‘Aa’ishah (radiallaahu anha) was asked, “What
does the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) do with his
family?” She said: “He
was busy with his family until it was time to pray and then he prayed.”
[Saheeh al-Bukhari]
On the authority of al-Qaasim, on the
authority of ‘Aa’ishah (radiallaahu ‘anhaa) that he asked, “What
did he Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) do in his
house?” She said: “He
was a man among men, he cleaned his garment, he milked his sheep and he served
himself.” [Ahmad with an authentic chain]
On the authority of ‘Urwah ibn az-Zubayr, on
the authority of ‘Aa’ishah (radiallaahu ‘anhaa) that he asked, “What
did the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) do in his
house?” She said: “He
mended his garment, patched his shoes and he did in his house what men do in
their houses.” [Ahmad with an authentic chain]
The female student of Islamic knowledge
especially needs her husband’s help in raising the children and caring for them,
in order for her to study from the Qur’an and Sunnah what is needed for her to
practice her religion and assist her in bringing up her children in a proper and
sound way. We ask Allah to guide our men.
Source: Umm
Salamah as-Salafiyyah – Excerpt from her book: Supporting the Rights of
Believing Women
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