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SERVING THE HOME TO THE BEST OF HER ABILITY

 بسم الله و الحمد لله ، والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله ، وعلى آله وصحبه ومن تولاه وبعد   

Chapter Two: On the Ethics of Marriage

SERVING THE HOME TO THE BEST OF HER ABILITY 

A woman should sit at home and stay with her spindle. She should not talk much with the neighbours and should stay away from people a lot when her husband is absent. She must protect him in his presence and absence and seeks to make him happy at all times. She does not betray him when it comes to herself or when it comes to his property and must not let anyone he dislikes set foot in the house or anyone else either without his permission. Let her worry about her own condition and taking care of the household by serving the home to the best of her ability. She should put her husband's rights before her own rights and the rights of all her relatives. 

Book: The Refinement Of Character 
By Imām Ibn Qudāmah al-Maqdīsī 
Translated and Published by 
Dār as-Sunnah Publishers 
P. 33


كتاب مختصر منهاج القاصدين

 وينبغى للمرأة أن تكون قاعدة فى بيتها، لازمة لمغزلها، قليلة الكلام لجيرانها، كثيرة الانقباض حالة غيبة زوجها، تحفظه غائباً وحاضراً، وتطلب مسرّته فى جميع الأحوال، ولا تخونه فى نفسها ولا فى ماله، ولا تُوطئ فراشه من يكره، ولا تأذن فى بيته إلا باذنه، ولتكن همتها صلاح شأنها وتدبير بيتها، قائمة بخدمة الدار فى كل ما أمكنها، ولتكن مُقَدَّمة لحق زوجها على حق نفسها وحق جميع أقربائها. 

Early years upon the Manhaj Salaf

Early years upon the Manhaj Salaf

Ibn Qudamah
Mukhtasar Minhaaj Al-Qaasideen
The child is taught to not boast in front of his friends and peers about something that his parents own, or to boast regarding his food and clothes. Rather he is nurtured upon modesty and being kind and generous to whomsoever he has a relationship with. And he is to be prevented from taking something from another child like him. He should be taught that inferiority is in taking and that superiority and dignity is in giving. And he should be made to not like gold and silver.
He is to be prohibited from spitting in gatherings, blowing his nose, yawning in front of others, and from sitting with his legs pointed, one on top of the other.
He should also be accustomed to speaking little and should not speak except when answering a question or fulfilling a request. He should also master the skill of listening well, when others are speaking especially if the one speaking is older than him. He is to be taught to stand for the one who has authority over him and to sit close to, next to, or in front of such a person.
He is to be prevented from lewd speech and that he keeps company with those who use such speech – for indeed the foundation of protecting a child lies in keeping him away from bad friends.
It is also from good practice that when the child finishes from his studying that he is allowed to play in a good way, so that he is able to relax from the difficulty and strictness of learning and discipline. It is has been said,
‘Relax the heart and mind; strengthen the memorisation and intellect.’
The child should be cultivated upon obedience towards his parents and towards the one who educates him, and he should revere such people.
Thereafter, when he reaches the age of seven years, he is to be ordered with the Salaah (obligatory prayers), and he is not to be excused from not being in a state of purity (by knowing the wudhu, and remaining in this state) so that he becomes used to it. He should also be reprimanded from lying and deceit, and then when he approaches puberty he should be taught the various rulings of Islaam and be made responsible for them.
You should know that food is a type of medicine and the objective behind eating is to strengthen the body in order to show obedience of Allah, the most High, through worship. This Dunya (worldly life) will not remain forever and death cuts off the pleasures of this world. Death awaits each person and may arrive any hour. The intelligent one, therefore, is the one who prepares for the Aakhirah (the Hereafter).
Hence, if the upbringing of the child is righteous then this will all become firm in his heart – similar to how an engraving becomes very firm on a stone.
Sahl Ibn Abdullah once said, “I was a child of three years, and I would stay awake at night looking at my uncle, Muhammed bin Sawwaar, praying. So he said to me one day, “why don’t you remember Allah, the one who created you?”
So I asked, “and how do I remember Him?”
He replied, “Say, three times in your heart without moving your tongue: Allah is with me, Allah is watching over me, Allah is a witness over me.”
I then said this a number of nights until I became accustomed to this. He then said to me, “say it eleven times every night.”
So I said it, and I felt the sweetness of this statement in my heart.
A year on from this, my uncle said to me “Memorise and safeguard what I have taught you, and act according to it up until you enter your grave”
So I continued acting upon these words for years and I would find the sweetness of it in my privacy.
He then said, “O Sahl, whomsoever Allah is with, and He watches him and is a witness over him – do you think such a person should disobey Allah? Beware of disobeying Allah.”
After this, I advanced to school and memorised the Qur’aan when I was only six or seven years old. I would then fast all the time, my daily sustenance was bread made from barley and thereafter I would wake during the night in order to pray.

Vaccines in Islam

Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked: 
What is the ruling on giving treatment before sickness occurs, such as vaccinations? 
He replied: 
There is nothing wrong with giving treatment if there is the fear that the disease may occur because of the presence of an epidemic or other factors which may cause disease. There is nothing wrong with giving medicine to ward off the feared disease, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, according to the saheeh hadeeth, “Whoever eats seven dates of Madeenah in the morning will not be harmed by witchcraft or poison.” This is a kind of warding off a problem before it happens. So if there is the fear of sickness and a person is vaccinated against an infection that is present in the land or elsewhere, there is nothing wrong with that, because it is a kind of protection. But it is not permissible to wear or hang up amulets etc against sickness, the jinn or the evil eye, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade that, and explained that this is a kind of minor shirk [associating others in worship with Allaah], so it must be avoided. 
Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz, 6/21 

سئل الشيخ عبد العزيز بن باز – رحمه الله - :
ما هو الحكم في التداوي قبل وقوع الداء كالتطعيم ؟
فأجاب :
لا بأس بالتداوي إذا خشي وقوع الداء لوجود وباء أو أسباب أخرى يخشى من وقوع الداء بسببها : فلا بأس بتعاطي الدواء لدفع البلاء الذي يخشى منه لقول النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم في الحديث الصحيح : " من تصبح بسبع تمرات من تمر المدينة لم يضره سحر ولا سم " ، وهذا من باب دفع البلاء قبل وقوعه فهكذا إذا خشي من مرض وطُعم ضد الوباء الواقع في البلد أو في أي مكان لا بأس بذلك من باب الدفاع كما يعالج المرض النازل بالدواء ، لكن لا يجوز تعليق التمائم والحجب ضد المرض أو الجن أو العين لنهي النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم عن ذلك ، وقد أوضح عليه الصلاة والسلام أن ذلك من الشرك الأصغر فالواجب الحذر من ذلك .
" فتاوى الشيخ ابن باز " ( 6 / 21 ) .


Sheij Nassirudin al-Albani: https://youtu.be/otfErJXMUpc
Sheij Saleh al-Uthaymeen: http://binothaimeen.net/content/167

Sheij Sulayman ar-Ruhayli: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7glaZ5AJuU8

Sheij Saleh al’Fawzan from kitaab: A Woman's Guide to Raising a Family

ثم تذكري بعض القضايا الصحية التي يجب أن يكون لديك خبرة بها.

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Depraved Men Desire Depraved Women- [A Relationship Based On Sin And Transgression]

After Imaam Ibnul Qayyim (rahimahullaah) described the beauty and perfection of the women of Paradise so that one is drawn towards them, he warned against being deceived by the evil women of this worldly life-those who are deprived of every excellent trait. They are neither perfect in their physical appearances nor do they possess good actions.

How can one be deceived by a woman who possesses ugly manners and is untrustworthy! How can one be deceived by a woman who neither fulfills her obligations nor does she possess patience! How can one be deceived by a woman who is neither contented nor is she obedient and humble [i.e. not obedient to Allaah in that which Allaah has commanded her to fulfil in marriage], and her deeds are ugly! Rather she is a female shaytaan disguised in the image of a human, so she deceives the despicable and depraved people who desire her because they are similar to her and are ready to obey her.

As for the people of goodness and virtue, she neither wants nor desires them because there are no similarities between her and them. She is deprived of everything that directs her towards good and prevents her from evil. She neither possesses the correct way of life ordained by Allaah and a sound moral intellect nor does she possess good manners and fear of Allaah. She does not possess natural beauty, rather her beauty is a falsified one that emanates from cosmetics. And when she leaves that beautification and embellishment the defects on her becomes apparent and she is deprived of everything that makes a person desirous of her. She is characterized with betrayal-neither grateful towards good companionship nor does she preserve and fulfill its rights.

Her beauty is a thin shell and underneath it are defects and ugly affairs. Her beauty resembles a fake coin plated with gold or silver, which one may consider to be a real gold or silver coin; but this counterfeit cannot be circulated amongst the money changers even though many people are deceived by it.

[Sharh Al-Qaseedah An-Nooniyyah by Shaikh Muhammad Khaleel Al-Harraas (rahimahullaah): Vol 2, page: 738-739]

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