Saturday 22 October 2011

لا تصف المرأة امرأة أخرى لزوجها

Imam Al-Nawawi's Riyad-us-Saliheen


Chapter 331


Prohibition of Describing the Charms of a Woman to a man without a valid reason approved by the Shari'ah

1742. Ibn Mas`ud (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "No woman should touch another woman's body and then describe the details of her figure to her husband in such a manner as if he was looking at her.''
[Al-Bukhari]. 


Commentary: "Mubashirah'' means "meeting of two bodies'' and here it signifies that one should not see another person's body. Here, it is used in its literal as well as metaphorical sense. What it really means is that neither a woman should see the body of any other woman nor should she touch her own body with the body of some other woman, for if she does so, she will come to know the physical qualities of the other woman which she may disclose to her husband. Such disclosures may induce her husband to mischief and eventually ruin her own life. One is allowed, however, to disclose a woman's charms to a man who intends to marry her. 


It is prohibited for a woman to describe another woman to her husband.

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "...and she describes her to her husband as if he were looking at her. " [Bukhari]

This type of description has many dangers; among them is that love for the other woman might enter the husband's heart, and so he starts wishing that he was with the other woman that is described to him, instead.
Tafir Ibn Kazir: Surah an-Noor
(and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers...), "The paternal uncle and maternal uncle are not mentioned here, because they may describe a woman to their sons, so a woman should not remove her Khimar in front of her paternal or maternal uncle.''With regard to the husband, all of this is for his sake, so she should try her best when adorning herself for him, unlike the way she should appear in front of others.
(or their women,) this means that she may also wear her adornment in front of other Muslim women, but not in front of the women of Ahl Adh-Dhimmah (Jewish and Christian women), lest they describe her to their husbands. This is prohibited for all women, but more so in the case of the women of Ahl Adh-Dhimmah, because there is nothing to prevent them from doing that, but Muslim women know that it is unlawful and so, would be deterred from doing it. The Messenger of Allah said:

(No woman should describe another woman to her husband so that it is as if he is looking at her.) It was recorded in the Two Sahihs from Ibn Mas`ud.


Arabic:

Shaykh, Al’Allamah, Al’Muhaadhith: Muqbil bin Hadii al-Walii rahimahu Allah ta’ala al’Wa3siyah

لا تصف المرأة امرأة أخرى لزوجها
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

لا تصف المرأة امرأة أخرى لزوجها

قال البخاري - رحمه الله تعالى - (9/ 338 ) : حدثنا محمد بن يوسف، حدثنا سفيان، عن منصور، عن أبي وائل، عن عبدالله بن مسعود - رضي الله عنه - قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: " لا تباشر المرأة المرأة؛ فتنعتها لزوجها كأنه ينظر إليها ".

لا تباشر: قال الطيب في شرح " مشكاة المصابيح ":

البشرة: ظاهر جلد الإنسان

والمباشرة: الملامسة، وأصله من لمس البشرة البشرة

والمعنى به في هذا الحديث النظر مع اللمس

فينظر ظاهرها من الوجه والكفين

ويحس باطنها باللمس

ويقف على نعومتها وسمنها. اهـ


قال القابسي: هذا أصل لمالك في سد الذرائع فإن الحكمة من النهي خشية أن يُعجِب الزوج الوصف المذكور، فيفضي ذلك إلى تطليق الواصفة أو الافتتان بالموصوفة. مرجع كلام القابسي " الفتح " (9/338)



اقتطفته من كتاب
نصيحتي للنساء - لأم عبدالله بنت الشيخ مقبل بن هادي الوادعي - ص: 184


Recopiled by: Hayat al’andalusia
سُبْحَانَ رَبِّ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ رَبِّ الْعَرْشِ عَمَّا يَصِفُون

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