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PROPOSING TO A WOMAN WHO DOES NOT COVER IN HOPES OF CHANGING HER


PROPOSING TO A WOMAN WHO DOES NOT COVER IN HOPES OF CHANGING HER

Shaykh Muhammad Firkoos

Question:

Is it permissible to propose to a woman who prays but does not cover (i.e. she is Mutabarrijah), intending to compel her to wear the Jilbaab after marriage? What is your advice?

Answer:

All the praise is for Allaah the Lord of all that exists. May prayers and peace be upon he whom Allaah sent as a mercy to the creation; upon his family members and companions and his brethren until the Day of Recompense. As to proceed:

It is befitting that the prayer should be a reason for the uprightness of the individual. 

The Prophet said:

“The first thing which the servant will be called to account for on the Day of Standing is the prayer. If it is sound then the rest of his actions will be sound; if it is corrupt then the rest of his actions will be corrupt.”1

The one whom his prayer does not prevent him from lewdness (Al-Fahshaa’) and evil acts (Al-Munkar) then his actions will be deficient. And from Al-Fahshaa’ is At-Tabarruj (not covering or not covering properly).

Allaah the Glorified and High has commanded the people to not display their ‘Awraah:'
O Children of Adam! Take your adornment (by wearing your clean clothes), while praying. (Al-A'raf 7:31)

And He said:

O Children of Adam! We have bestowed raiment upon you to cover yourselves (screen your private parts, etc.) and as an adornment, and the raiment of righteousness, that is better. Such are among the Ayât (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) of Allaah, that they may remember (i.e. leave falsehood and follow truth). O Children of Adam! Let not Shaytaan (Satan) deceive you, as he got your parents [Adam and Hawwa (Eve)] out of Paradise, stripping them of their raiment, to show them their private parts. Verily, he and Qabîluhu (his soldiers from the Jinn or his tribe) see you from where you cannot see them. Verily, We made the Shayaateen (devils) Auliyâ' (protectors and helpers) for those who believe not. And when they commit a Fâhisha (evil deed, going round the Ka'bah in naked state, every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse, etc.), they say: "We found our fathers doing it, and Allaah has commanded us of it." Say: "Nay, Allaah never commands of Fâhisha. Do you say of Allaah what you know not? (Al-A'raf 7:26-28)

In the pre-Islamic days of ignorance they would make Tawaaf (around the Ka’bah) naked. So nakedness and uncovering enters into the general meaning of Faahishah. Allaah has commanded the women to cover.

He said:

And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance. (Al-Ahzaab 33:33)

And He, the Most High has said:

O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies. (Al-Ahzaab 33:59)

So if this woman does not comply with the legislative texts commanding to cover and she is not reformed by her prayer to abandon Al-Fahshaa’ (lewdness i.e. not covering) and Munkar (evil), then we do not advise proposing to her. We have no doubt that after the man marries her it will be difficult for him to change her to the path that he sees as correct. The scholars have confirmed the principle: Repelling (evil) takes precedence over elevating (the status of someone etc.). Also because leaving (marrying) her today is better than marrying her then divorcing her or seeking annulment (tomorrow) because she won’t comply with his command. More evil that that is that which is feared; that he will come to be in agreement with her desires and fall into sharing (in her sin) and be affected by her Fitnah, then become pleased with the Munkar after it becomes something which he deems to be good; and Allaah is beseeched for help.

And the knowledge is with Allaah. The last of our supplications is: All the praise is for Allaah, and may prayers and peace from Allaah be upon Muhammad, his family, companions, and all those who follow them in goodness until the Day of Recompense.

Notes:

1 At-Tabaraanee in Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsat no. 1929; Ad-Diyaa’ Fee Al-Mukhtaar 2/209, from the Hadeeth of Anas ibn Maalik, may Allaah be pleased with him. Al-Albaanee graded it as Saheeh in As-Silsilah As-Saheehah no. 1358 and in Saheeh Al-Jaami’ no. 2573

Translated By: Raha ibn Donald Batts
Original:
الفتوى رقم: 513في حكم خطبة المرأة المتبرجة
السؤال: هل يجوز لي أن أتقدم لخطبة امرأة تصلي لكنها متبرجة، وأريد أن أفرض عليها الجلباب بعد الزواج؟ فما نصيحتكم.
الجواب: الحمد لله ربِّ العالمين، والصلاة والسلام على من أرسله الله رحمة للعالمين، وعلى آله وصحبه وإخوانه إلى يوم الدين، أمَّا بعد:
فينبغي أن تكون الصلاة سببا لاستقامة الإنسان، قال صلى الله عليه وسلم:" أَوَّلُ مَا يُحَاسَبُ بِهِ الْعَبْدُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ الصَّلَاةُ، فَإِنْ صَلَحَتْ صَلَحَ لَهُ سَائِرُ عَمَلِهِ، وَإِنْ فَسَدَتْ فَسَدَ سَائِرُ عَمَلِهِ "(1)، والذي لا تكون صلاته تنهاه عن الفحشاء والمنكر فأعماله ناقصة، ومن الفحشاء التبرج، والله سبحانه وتعالى أمر الناس ألاّ يكشفوا عوراتهم: ? ياَ بَنِي آدَمَ خُذُواْ زِينَتَكُمْ عِندَ كُلِّ مَسْجِدٍ ?[الأعراف: 31] وقال: ?يَا بَنِي آدَمَ قَدْ أَنزَلْنَا عَلَيْكُمْ لِبَاساً يُوَارِي سَوْءَاتِكُمْ وَرِيشاً وَلِبَاسُ التَّقْوَىَ ذَلِكَ خَيْرٌ ذَلِكَ مِنْ آيَاتِ اللّهِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَذَّكَّرُونَ * يَا بَنِي آدَمَ لاَ يَفْتِنَنَّكُمُ الشَّيْطَانُ كَمَا أَخْرَجَ أَبَوَيْكُم مِّنَ الْجَنَّةِ يَنزِعُ عَنْهُمَا لِبَاسَهُمَا لِيُرِيَهُمَا سَوْءَاتِهِمَا إِنَّهُ يَرَاكُمْ هُوَ وَقَبِيلُهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لاَ تَرَوْنَهُمْ إِنَّا جَعَلْنَا الشَّيَاطِينَ أَوْلِيَاء لِلَّذِينَ لاَ يُؤْمِنُونَ * وَإِذَا فَعَلُواْ فَاحِشَةً قَالُواْ وَجَدْنَا عَلَيْهَا آبَاءنَا وَاللّهُ أَمَرَنَا بِهَا قُلْ إِنَّ اللّهَ لاَ يَأْمُرُ بِالْفَحْشَاء أَتَقُولُونَ عَلَى اللّهِ مَا لاَ تَعْلَمُونَ ?[الأعراف: 26-27-28]، وكانوا في الجاهلية يطوفون عراة، فالعري والتكشف يدخل في عموم الفاحشة.
وقد أمر الله النساء بالتستر فقال: ?وََقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَى? [الأحزاب: 33] ، وقال تعالى: ? يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُل لِّأَزْوَاجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَاء الْمُؤْمِنِينَ يُدْنِينَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِن جَلَابِيبِهِنَّ ?[الأحزاب: 59]، فإذا كانت هذه المرأة لا تتجاوب مع النصوص الشرعية الآمرة بالتستر، ولا تعكس صلاتها عليها إيجابا من حيث ترك الفحشاء والمنكر، فلا ننصح بالإقدام عليها، ولا يساورنا شك بأنّ الرجل بعد تزوجه بها يصعب عليه أن يحولها إلى الطريق الذي يراه، وقد قرر العلماء تأصيلا قاعدة:" الدفع أولى من الرفع" ولأن يتخلى عنها اليوم خير من أن يتزوجها ثمّ يُحدث طلاقا أو فسخا لعدم ائتمارها بأمره، وشر من ذلك ما يخشى عليه أن يسايرها في هواها، فيقع في شراكها، ويتأثر بفتنتها، ثم يرضى بالمنكر بعد أن صار عنده معروفا، والله المستعان.
والعلم عند الله، وآخر دعوانا أن الحمد لله رب العالمين وصلّى الله على محمّد وعلى آله وصحبه والتابعين لهم بإحسان إلى يوم الدين.
الجزائر في: 20رجب1427ه
الموافق ل: 14أوت2006م
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1- أخرجه الطبراني في المعجم الأوسط (1929)، والضياء في المختارة (209/2)، من حديث أنس بن مالك رضي الله عنه، وصححه الألباني في "السلسلة الصحيحة"(1358)، وفي "صحيح الجامع" (2573).

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