Relation of Husband and Wife

Relation of Husband and Wife

Ibn al Qayyim said:

فإن صادف ذلك وجها حسنا وخلقا دمثا وعشقا وافرا ورغبة تامة واحتسابا للثواب فذلك اللذة التي لا يعادلها شيء ولا سيما إذا وافقت كمالها فإنها لا تكمل حتى يأخذ كل جزء من البدن بقسطه من اللذة فتلتذ العين بالنظر إلى المحبوب والأذن بسماع كلامه والأنف بشم رائحته والفم بتقبيله واليد بلمسه وتعتكف كل جارحة على ما تطلبه من لذتها وتقابله من المحبوب فإن فقد من ذلك شيء لم تزل النفس متطلعة إليه متقاضية له فلا تسكن كل السكون ولذلك تسمى المرأة سكنا لسكون النفس إلينا قال الله تعالى {وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجاً لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا}

If it (sex) is done wholeheartedly, in a friendly and loving manner, with full desire and with the intention of reward only than one can get complete pleasure which no other thing can give. It can only be attained by doing it in a best way. The sign of it is, after doing it every part of the body feels calm, eyes feel cool by seeing the beloved (wife), and the ears feels happiness by listening to her soft and beautiful voice, Through her perfume and by touching her it feels good, and by kissing her the taste of mouth changes, likewise every part of the body feels good..

Because women (wives) are the cause of happiness of the heart that is why they are also called the reason to the happiness of the soul. Allah says “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them” [30:21]

[روضة المحبين ونزهة المشتاقين by Ibn al Qayyim page 217]