Etiquettes in the Congregations of the people

Etiquettes in the Congregations

of the people

When you sit with the people and congregate with them, make humility the sign by which you are recognized and let Fear of Allaah be your cover (i.e. protection from sins) and giving advice to the servants of Allaah as your abiding way.




Be eager to (make) every gathering in which you sit to be that which comprises goodness, either research into affairs of knowledge, or advice on religious matters, or direction towards a general or particular Maslahah (benefit); or making mention of the blessings of Allaah; or making mention of the superior status of praiseworthy manners and good etiquettes; or warning against that which is detrimental to the wellbeing of one’s religious or worldly (affairs). And the least of this is that they seek the earnings from their occupations by way of permissible (means) and not the forbidden.




Behave well towards the young, the old and your peers. Deal with each of them in a way they deserve and have respect for the one that deserves to be respected and honoured. Be eager to make your congregation relaxed by way of speech that is appropriate and good, even if that was in relation to the worldly (affairs). That is because when permissible (speech) and congregation turns out well, sitting together becomes easy, conversation is made easy, the heart feels tranquillity, and all of that returns to praiseworthiness.




The sensible resolute one achieves abundant goodness through the gatherings of the people, and he becomes more beloved to them than all (beloved things). This is because he enters upon them with what they approve and statements they desire, and the foundation in this is success in taking over control of all the affairs placed before them.




And these affairs become more emphasized on a journey, and that because during a journey sitting together is prolonged and the travellers are in need of having someone who revives their hearts with good statements, the news of events and joke--if all of that truth and not too much--and to assist them with the essential issues of travel. Good etiquettes makes a possessor of it more pleasurable to the people than the pleasure derived from a cold drink, and its influence bears heavier upon their souls than hard stones.


He (Subhaanah) is the one who caused the dissimilarities between His slaves with regards to their manners, their actions and in all of their affairs. Allaah (Alone) is the One Who grants success.




Source: [Noorul Basaair Wal al-baab fee ahkaam al ‘Ibaadaat Wal Mu‘aamalaat Wal Huqooq Wal aadaab Of Imaam ‘Abdur Rahmaan As Sa’dee (rahimahullaah) Page 64-65]




May Allaah reward our brother Abu Talhah [Dawood Burbank] who checked the translation and our brother Abu Hafs [Abdur Raqeeb] who assisted in translating the article.




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