Plural Marriage 
In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, Bestower of Mercy, 
 Instructions for Men regarding plural marriage from Sheikh Saalih As-Suhaymee -may Allah preserve him- [Source below] : 
  Question:  May Allah give you good, the questioner says: He is married  to two  women -maa shaa'Allah- however the problem -oh our Sheikh- is  that when  the first wife found out I married she declared war against  me (i.e. she  became ferociously angry).  And I do not want to divorce  my new wife so  what should I do? 
 Answer: Firstly, may Allah  reward you with  good because you have revived a sunnah that (many)  people have begun to  forsake. But with that I'd like to advise you and  your likes; those who  are interested or want to practise polygyny and  implement this sunnah: 
 First:  That you must be prepared from  all angles. Physically, mentally,  spiritually, housing, [TN:  knowledgable about it] and so forth. Because  in these times the affair  has within it some difficulty. In the  beginning our fathers used to  house them (i.e. his wives) in one house. I  can remember my stepmothers  -may Allah have mercy upon them-, we used  to all be in one room and I  was a small boy. Na'am, one room, we didn't  have (in the house) except  one room. Then it went to two rooms and one  bathroom and kitchen. And  when he passed away -may Allah have mercy upon  him- they all shared one  kitchen. 
 The point behind this -oh  brothers- is that it is  upon the Muslim Man to exert himself when  selecting a wife before  everything else. Whether it is the first,  second, third or fourth.  Exerting himself when selecting a wife. 
 Secondly:  He must  possess the ability to be just and be able to handle that which  occurs  (i.e. in plural marriage) because it isn't an easy affair. I  mean, I  don't want to make the Muslims leave it off, no, however it will  be  easy for whomever Allah makes it easy for and who takes the proper  and  legislated steps that will bring (the success) about. Also, some   brothers have a particular method that they use and it harms them (in   actuality) and places a strain on their marriage and it is: Marrying   without the first wife knowing. Yes, you may have the ability to conceal   the contract process and keep it hidden from the first wife fearing   that there will be some dispute or the like, but when it is finished   then (what?). Straighten your affairs and reveal your marriage. (Note:   Of course that is with using hikmah). 
 Thirdly: Utilize the   beneficial avenues with the first wife by letting her know of her   nobility and status and about your high esteem for her and your love for   her. If you enter a house be aware of mentioning the affairs that go  on  in the other house. Make yourself as though you only live in the  house  that you are in and be just! For indeed being just is very very   important and essential. Put your affairs in order, be equitable, be   kind to them, speak to them politely and with generosity. Go to the   first wife who became extremely upset (with you) and proclaim the salaam   to her. Be compassionate with her, give her gifts, approach her with   gracious and warm words, inform her that your love for her did not   change in the least and so forth. 
 So be diligent and use some   of her family members who will assist you in this affair after Allah   'azza wa jall, those who are upright from amongst them. Have them   intervene and counsel her and steer her in the right way and be just.   The most important thing is that you be just. Seek the assistance of   Allah 'azza wa jall and beware of surrendering to her bequest by   divorcing the second wife. And if the situation doesn't lighten up then   seperate their housing and have each one in their own dwelling place so   that there will be no way for any confrontation or such. 
  Thereafter  exert yourself by full application of the Shar' (to the best  of your  ability) and rejoice inshaa'Allah and you can probably run  into me in  the office and i'll give you specific instructions  inshaa'Allah tomorrow  or the next day. See me in the office and i'll  give you meticulous  instructions for this subject matter inshaa'Allah.  Jazaakallah khayr. 
 Translator: Abu Fouzaan Qaasim 
 
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